"Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate"~Barnett R. Brickner
When you were single, you could focus on your needs entirely. Now that you’re in a partnership, that just isn’t going to work. Sometimes you have to think about the family and the marriage before you think about yourself.
Remember that a marriage is a complicated thing. Being a good husband and wife spans a lot of territory. Sure, you need to support your family financially and raise your children with love and concern. These are two of the givens of being a good partner. But these aren’t the only duties of being a partner.
When you talk about the interpersonal dynamics of a man/wife relationship, a lot of these dynamics involve how we communicate with one another. How we express our love to our spouse and large part of being a good spouse in this context is showing we are a part of the team, supporting our teammate while communicating when we need support in our turn.