MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: He deserves your best you, and we motivate you to give it to him. What you give out will come back to you...

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: I know I can't change you but...

Usually that one thing that attracted us to our mates, is the same thing we end up not being able to stand.  If there is one thing you could change about your mate what would it be?

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Football vs Sexy Time

Its football season, and after being with my husband for 12 years, I know when to ask him a question, when to let him focus, and when to distract him.

Do you let your husband enjoy his football time, or do you bring the sexy out to distract him?

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Juggling

All of the women I know either go to work or stay at home, no matter what their work status is they're the ones that do homework with the kids, go to teacher meetings, give discipline to the kids, etc. As well as take care of the other things in their lives such as, financial obligations, keep it hot between her and hubby, etc. 

How do you deal, would you like your husband to help out more with the kids schooling, or other parts of your life? 

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Inspirations...

Who or what inspires you to love your husband, stay with your husband, be there for your husband?

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: SUBMISSION OR INDEPENDENCE

Wives are to submit to their husbands, but wives also should be partners to their husbands and offer advice, and be strong for their husbands, etc.  How do you submit and be independant at the same time without conflict?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Get away...

It's summer time, and with Summer comes vacation!!!  In a marriage, these vacations or get aways are a must!  Sometimes you just have to re-energize your marriage and GET AWAY!  This motivational Monday we would like to motivate you to get your plans together, cross your t's and dot your i's and make plans with hubby to get away...

A happy husband+A happy wife = A happy Life

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Protect you covenant

Times are hard, and the devil is a working!  Today I would like to motivate you to protect your covenant.  Put nothing above your marriage.  If he needs attention give it to him.  If he needs some loving, saddle up! If the house needs cleaning, get to it.  If the kids are whining for some time, and running both you and hubby crazy, figure it out, because after everything is said and done if the house is sparkling, money is being made, everyone has had there time, and smiles are on your husband's face and the kid's face, its sure to put a smile on yours.  Start your week off right!

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Fun & Games

We know that after time you have to do things to spice your marriage up, keep things interesting.  So RWOC has intitiated June 9th Family Fun night!!!!!!!

http://rwocfamilybowlnight.eventbrite.com/

Orland Bowl
8601 W. 159th Place
7:30-10:00pm

$25 per person

Includes:  bowling, shoes, pizza buffet and soda

What fun things do you do to spice up your marriage?

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Gifts

In our book club we read the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, and we learned that sometimes we can express love in ways that we want to be loved, but it may not necessarily be you like for Mothers Day, words of affirmation, giftsthe way that person wants to be loved. 

So with Mothers Day coming up, I would like to know what would , acts of service, quality time or physical touch?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Plug into your Marriage

This Motivational Monday, I would like to motivate you to...

Unplug So You Can Plug Into Your Marriage

by Aaron Anderson in Communication

In the information age it seems there’s no end to devices to help us stay connected. There are all sorts of mp3 players, tablets, laptops, desktops, gaming consoles and other devices that help keep us informed of the latest and greatest in the world and they’re all becoming increasingly more available and more portable.

These devices are great and even help you keep in touch with people who are important to you such as friends, relatives and even your spouse and children. But too often, these devices can actually hinder your relationship with those who are important to you. Below are some tips to help you unplug so you can plug into your most important relationship: your marriage.

Decompress with your spouse . . .

. . . instead of with your device. Oftentimes, people use being plugged in is a way to decompress after a long or challenging day. There’s something relieving about logging in and looking up friends, listening to music or checking out your favorite blogs. But this is a great time to connect with your spouse instead of connecting with your device.
Marriages become strengthened when spouses hear each others’ difficulties (like after having a challenging day) and are able to hear and console each other. This shows each other care and affection and creates love and connection between each other.

So next time you want to put your feet up after a challenging day go sit down by your spouse to put your feet up and tell them all about what made your day so challenging. Spouses are usually a lot more consoling than a screen anyway.

Instead of texting, try calling

Sending texts to your spouse throughout the day is great. It shows your spouse that you’re thinking about them and that you want to keep them included in your day even if they’re not around. But there’s something extra special about calling your spouse instead of sending a text.

Think of it like way back when you were dating and you used to call each other just to say hi and talk. You may not have had a whole lot to talk about (if there were text messages back then, a simple text would have done) but somehow you were always able to make a conversation out of it, anyway.

Even if a simple text message will do, give your spouse a call during their lunch break and see where it goes. You might be surprised how much you’re able to talk about (and how long you’re able to talk about it).

Instead of going online, go out

The simple act of getting out requires that you get out of your home and away from your devices (at least most of them). You don’t have to go anywhere fancy, expensive, or anywhere that costs at all for that matter, but the simple act of getting out means you have to communicate with your spouse in order to make plans, find a sitter, etc.
Even if all you do is go out for a picnic dinner or go to a scenic view and talk this is all time that is wholly devoted to your spouse and is not interrupted by websites, updates, etc. Remember spending money is not the object of going out, the act of spending unadulterated time with your spouse is.

Fundamentally, being plugged in is a solitary exercise. You only need yourself to be able to do it. This means that when you’re plugged in you’re not wholly plugged in with your spouse…even if you are in the same room. There’s something extra that happens in a marriage when a couple sits down and engages with each other during a game of cards or eating ice cream at the dinner table after the kids have gone to bed.
Being plugged in often makes you unavailable and you miss the moments that are occurring around you. Think of it. At the end of the day, you’ll still be able to log in and find out what news headlines or status updates you missed, but you’ll never be able to go back to a moment that you missed with your spouse.

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: I love me some him!

Husbands all over the world make the world go round, and today we want to know what do you love about that man of yours!

I love my..........

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: It starts with a kiss...

These days there are so many demons trying to still our joy, and sometimes we do bring that home to our families.  We blow things up more than what they have to be, and we take things out our Spouses.  Well I have a solution, and it all starts with a kiss.  If you're not doing this already, start today!  Today I motivate you all to greet your husbands with a tight hug for at least 10 seconds, and kiss each other on the mouth for at least a 5 second count.  After doing this on a regular basis, I promise it does wonders for a marriage, and he would even know that it all started with a kiss...

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Pet Peeves...

Unfortunately because marriage has such a negative stigma, we HAPPILY MARRIED women have developed pet peeves..  Mines is when people say, "yall still married?" ...I so dislike this, smh!!!!

We've also developed husband pet peeves, He comes home and throws his coat and clothes on one couch, and his gloves, hat, scarf, etc. on another couch.  His shoes in one place, his wallet in the kitchen, and so on, instead of putting them all in one place in his closet!!!!!!  ...I so dislike this!!!!!!


What are your negative stigma pet peeves, and husband pet peeves? 

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Bigger and Better 2012 Sisterhood

Yesterday, we welcomed new members into our Sisterhood.  When we host these meet and greets, its as if the holy spirit is speaking from everyone's mouths, and is assuring us that we are in the right place, and something wonderful is taking place.  So in light of the spirit, I would like to motivate all of the sisters, new, old, and potential to accept the things that the spirit have set in front of you, love yourself, love your husband, honor your sisterhoods, and the next time someone ask you about your relationship, say I am HAPPILY MARRIED!!!!!!!!

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: In-laws

Here's the scenario:

Your Husbands younger nieces and nephews are not living up to their full potential.  Some of them don't have high school diplomas.  Some of them are not in school.  They don't have jobs, they don't have arrest records, but they're just not motivated to do anything with themselves, other than speak nonsense on facebook, drink and have sex.  You've tried talking to your husband about his family, and he's disappointed with them, but doesn't do anything about it.  Some of your nieces and nephews come to you with request, problems, etc.,  so therefor this involves you directly.   You want to help them because you feel they need it, but you don't because you fill they're just taking advantage.  What do you do?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Pray for your Husband

In my opinion, I feel that our Husbands should be the King of our homes, the beating of our hearts, and the partner to our souls.  With them being all of that we have to pray for them.  So this day I motivate you to pray for your Husbands;

May You open my husband’s ears to hear Your voice; may You open his eyes to see Your guidance: and may You open his heart to receive Your wisdom. May You Give him a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of You, and may the eyes of his heart be enlightened so that he may know what is the hope of Your calling, what are the riches of the glory of Your inheritance in the saints and what is the surpassing greatness of Your power toward us who believe. (Eph. 1:17-19)

Wordless Wednesday (Real Husbands Of Chicago- RHOC)

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: What does hubby want?

So last Tuesday I asked what you wanted for Christmas, and we got it all, to loose weight, peace on earth, hat sets, etc. now tell me what has hubby been hinting about?  What does he want for Christmas?