My Aunt and Uncle just celebrated their 56th wedding anniversary. I ask them what was their secret in staying together this long and they mention the "three-fold-cord", What is your secret for staying together?
This is a old school poem but it really add motivation to my day so I hope it will do the same for you.
The willingness to forgive is an important ingredient in a successful peaceful, happy, positive relationships. The ability to forgive will be a useful tool in your relationship if it use in a timely and effective way.
I think the first way to start is learning to first forgive yourself for your own imperfections. Then understanding that your mate is imperfect also.
Now forgiveness is not about letting the other person get off the hook for their mistakes. Its primary function and value is to let you off the hook from damaging consequences of carrying around suppressed negative feelings.
Just consider all the benefits of forgiveness and what it can do for your life. It will release you from negative feelings, allow you to be free and move forward in your relationship.
Forgiveness is not an easy thing to do especially when someone that you love cause you pain BUT if you learn and practice forgiveness then you gaining power of your life and not allowing another person action dictate yours.
I'm not sure how many I will reach with this topic but if anybody who read this post and is holding on to negative feelings..let it go! and learn to forgive.
When a spouse is unfaithful, What fuels an affair?
Marriage is a beautiful convenant between a man and a woman but lets face it,not everyone is good at everything, the ability to get and, more importantly stay married is a little more difficult than it looks on the surface. A successful marriage is comprised of many constantly changing components requiring regular maintenance, and a person unwilling or unable to put in the work should not undertake the adventure. Marriage is not for everyone, unfortunately that realization comes after the vows for the misguided who never should have married in the first place. It takes a special personality to thrive within the boundaries of marriage, and a special mate to help balance the relationship of two different individuals and steer it in a singular direction.
I think if more people ask themselves are they really cut out for marriage. Then maybe we will have less failed marriages.
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"Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate"~Barnett R. Brickner
When you were single, you could focus on your needs entirely. Now that you’re in a partnership, that just isn’t going to work. Sometimes you have to think about the family and the marriage before you think about yourself.
Remember that a marriage is a complicated thing. Being a good husband and wife spans a lot of territory. Sure, you need to support your family financially and raise your children with love and concern. These are two of the givens of being a good partner. But these aren’t the only duties of being a partner.
When you talk about the interpersonal dynamics of a man/wife relationship, a lot of these dynamics involve how we communicate with one another. How we express our love to our spouse and large part of being a good spouse in this context is showing we are a part of the team, supporting our teammate while communicating when we need support in our turn.
With the media currently showing such a negative image on marriage. We wanted to express a positive image. Couples with longevity despite the media controversy.
"Relationships, marriage are ruined where one person continues to learn,develop and grow and the other person stand still." - Catherine Pulsifer
Kim wants some '"me" time but her husband seems to be clingy. She loves him dearly but would like to go shopping, out to dinner with the girls sometimes. How can Kim balance "me" time with her girls and still make her husband feels like he is important too?
Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional - Roger Crawford
