HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Compromising vs. Confrontation

Marriage is a unity.  Two individual lives, being shared, and becoming one. So as individuals we have interest and dreams that we aspire towards.  How do you convince your spouse to do something that you really want to do, that you feel you have to do, but they just don't want to do it?  For example:  You are a quiet, small town type of person and you really don't like the city, you've tried to make it work, but you just want to move.  Not only cause of your anxieties over city life, but you also feel that the schools will be better if you moved, taxes will be lower if you move, etc., but your spouse still isn't budging.  How do you deal?