HOT TOPIC TUESDAY

My Aunt and Uncle just celebrated their 56th wedding anniversary. I ask them what was their secret in staying together this long and they mention the "three-fold-cord", What is your secret for staying together?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY

This is a old school poem but it really add motivation to my day so I hope it will do the same for you.

Don't Quit
When things go wrong as they sometimes will; When the road you're trudging seems all uphill; When the funds are low, and the debts are high; And you want to smile, but you have to sigh; When care is pressing you down a bit Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out; The silver tint of the clouds of doubt; And you can never tell how close you are; It may be near when it seems afar. So, stick to the fight when you're hardest hit It's when things go wrong that you mustn't quit.

THE SIMPLE THINGS

As married couples, we all realize the hardships, struggles, and tremendous (this word may be an understatement) amount of work it takes to not only make a marriage work, but to have a successful happy one. Learning how to communicate, fight fair, compromise, and make decisions together is something that takes time to master and for both spouses seems to be on the job training. Its amazing when you stop to think about it all the planning that goes into a wedding, but the lack of planning put into a life time of marriage. I know personally I am guilty. Either way, learning how to be a wife, or learning how to be a husband is just that...it is learned.

When you factor in the daily issues we all face such as this wonderful thing called life, there are times our marriages are put on the back burner as we are focused on handling other situations. In other words, there are many issues that contribute to the challenges of married life. Marriage is a beautiful covenant, but it doesn't come without a fight.

So as I sit here this morning trying to think of something meaningful to write about how to make marriage better, I realize sometimes its the simple things we need to focus on. Marriage is complicated enough in itself and it is easy to look past the small things.

So "real wives" my question to you is simply this: Why do you love your husband? Despite the all the struggles and challenges, what is one positive thing you can say about your spouse? I know one of the reasons why I fell in love with my husband is because of his sense of humor and his dedication to whatever he does. He's a hard worker and never gives up; most days he's even my best friend ;)

Sometimes we just need a little reminder of why we married our spouse in the first place.

WORDLESS WEDNESDAY

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY

You and your spouse playing the silent treatment. Niether one want to give in. How do you break those barriers?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us~Ralph Waldo

The act of positive thinking can make a huge difference in your relationships. If your spouse is down, turn it around with words of affirmation and encouragement. Help them transition from their current thoughts to a positive outlook filled with hope. You can stop looking at what appears to be happening and start looking at what is happening for you. For everything is possible to him who believes.

LEARNING TO FORGIVE

The willingness to forgive is an important ingredient in a successful peaceful, happy, positive relationships. The ability to forgive will be a useful tool in your relationship if it use in a timely and effective way.

I think the first way to start is learning to first forgive yourself for your own imperfections. Then understanding that your mate is imperfect also.

Now forgiveness is not about letting the other person get off the hook for their mistakes. Its primary function and value is to let you off the hook from damaging consequences of carrying around suppressed negative feelings.

Just consider all the benefits of forgiveness and what it can do for your life. It will release you from negative feelings, allow you to be free and move forward in your relationship.

Forgiveness is not an easy thing to do especially when someone that you love cause you pain BUT if you learn and practice forgiveness then you gaining power of your life and not allowing another person action dictate yours.

I'm not sure how many I will reach with this topic but if anybody who read this post and is holding on to negative feelings..let it go! and learn to forgive.