Wordless Wednesday (Is marriage that tiring, lol)

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Quality Time Together

Spring is in the air, and in my business there is lots of talk of Spring & Summer Weddings. It makes me reminisce back to my wedding, and most importantly the honeymoon! This Hot Topic Tuesday, I decided to go a little lighter with the topic, not make it one of the blood boiling, make you angry kind of questions, and bring you back to your wedding day. What did you do after the ceremony? Did you go on a Honeymoon? If so, where? Do you have any plans for a second Honeymoon?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY

It is officially Spring, and we are more than a quarter into the year. How are you doing with your New Years Resolutions? Maybe you feel a little stuck with sticking with them. Here are some tips to help you take charge: 1. Believe in yourself. A daily affirmation may seem to be a silly idea, but give it a try anyway. Write your own affirmation about your abilities, and repeat it each day before you leave your home. Start with the following, and modify it until it fully expresses your commitments, beliefs, and intents. I am unlimited. I take responsibility for my life. My every action is a conscious choice. I can accomplish anything good that I truly set my mind on. I keep focus, and persevere. 2. Make peace with your past. In the words of William Shakespeare, "What's done is done." You can't change the past. You can't undo any actions you took or failed to take. Your only choice today is either to waste energy and emotion on regrets and resentments, or to treat your own past like a history book - an interesting, but emotionally neutral, recitation of ancient times. 3. See each day as a new beginning. Don't project your past onto your future. Suppose you won the lottery yesterday, would that mean you will win the lottery again tomorrow? Usually, we are fairly realistic about not expecting a run of good fortune to continue, but when we hit a streak of bad luck, we tend to project that failure into our future and think times will never get better. So you stepped on a banana peel and slipped yesterday, does that mean it will happen again tomorrow? If you got fired or your lover left, it's unfortunate, but there's always tomorrow - a tomorrow that can shine so long as you don't project yesterday's shadow upon it. 4. Look for the best in people. Everyone has good points and bad. Everyone will please you at times and annoy you at others. While there is power in choosing to associate mostly with positive people, there is even more power in seeing the best in everyone. Everyone has a lesson to teach us. Let the impact of an unkind or thoughtless word last only a moment, but bask for a whole day in gentle words and insightful thoughts. The happiest among us have no enemies. 5. Make a gratitude list, and review it often. Not everything has gone well in your life, but much has. Too often we focus on the negative and forget our great blessings - health, friends, family, beauty, nature, our body, our mind, Spirit, life itself. Perhaps you have arthritis or your spouse just moved out. Yes, those are big negatives, but your list, anyone's list, of blessings is vastly larger than any list of problems. 6. Design your future. Visualize being in the future you desire. Make that vision so real you can taste and smell it - a three-dimensional full-color motion picture with surround-sound. That is your goal - your destination. Never forget it - never lose track of it. Let what you do every day be done with that vision in mind. Be the aspiring athlete or musician whose every day moves them one inch closer to that three-minute mile or perfect concerto. 7. Either learn how to enjoy your work, or get a new career. Make a list of what you like and what you dislike about your job. Perhaps you enjoy your customers and co-workers, but find your boss annoying. Limit your awareness of the annoying times to the moment in which they occur, but let thoughts of the service and camaraderie permeate your day. If you find that the frustrations of your job outweigh the enjoyment, get a new career. Whatever your interests, there is a way to do something you enjoy, make a difference in the world, and get well paid at the same time. Make a list of all your interests and abilities, and think big. Don't let anyone else's small and limited thinking deter you from your goal. 8. Enjoy everything you do, or don't do it. Yes, you have to file your taxes and stop at stop signs whether you like it or not. This secret refers to those things you do merely out of habit or to avoid embarrassment. Enjoy that party, or don't accept the invitation. Feel fulfilled by that volunteer committee, or don't join. Believe in that particular charitable cause, or don't contribute. Everything in life is a choice - make wise choices that maximize your happiness. 9. Feel Unity with Spirit and all creation. You are never alone. Your Higher Power, whatever that means to you, is a constant support - never hesitate to ask for guidance and blessing. Remember that Spirit knows better than you what is best for you, so ask for comfort and affluence rather than the affections of a particular person or a higher paying job. Whatever your circumstances, and however often you may have felt rejected, there are many people in this world who live in the tradition of the "Good Samaritan." When troubles weigh upon you, do not hesitate to find and rely upon these people - they are far more numerous than you think.

Wordless Wednesday (Take a leap out on Faith)

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Trading Places!

As women, we wear many hates (Wives, Mothers, Full-time workers, WAHM or SAHM, Entrepreneurs) our partners sometimes have a hard time seeing things in our eyes, and vice verse. I don't know how many times, I've asked my husband to please understand that I not only have to work like he does, but I also have to make sure that there's food in the house, that we have toothpaste to brush our teeth, that we have dish washing liquid and towels to wash those dishes, and that the bills are paid, that our child is up to date in his shots, that he's all set for when he starts school, etc. A lot of these things, He does not have to worry about, because somewhere in his mind, he knows that I will take care of it, and at times, I admit I feel taken for granted.

This brings me to the question:

If you could trade places with your Spouse, what is the 1st lesson you would like them to learn?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Let Go & Let God

Mondays bring it all! Tired co-workers that take it out on you, finding out about infidelity from over the weekend, illness, etc., and in these times, no matter what your religion is we look to someone or something that empowers us, something to keep us going. For myself I've learned, and are continuing to learn to increase my Faith and to Let Go and Let God.

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Mom vs. MIL

Question:

Would you rather be stranded on a desert island with your Mother or your Mother-in-Law?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Don't Quit

Our hearts and prayers go out to the people of Japan, and in times like this it's easy to give up, so I wanted to remind us of the most popular motivational poem in the world.


Don't Quit

When things go wrong as they sometimes will;
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill;
When the funds are low, and the debts are high;
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh;
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Success is failure turned inside out;
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you can never tell how close you are;
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things go wrong that you mustn't quit.

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Hiding Bank Accounts?

I would like to stick with the money theme I started yesterday, if you don't mind for this Hot topic Tuesday.

In a research study, 32% of women said that they have a bank account that their husbands do not know about as a security blanket in case their husbands leave them, or they decide to leave their husbands.

I myself know a couple of women that have accounts their husbands don't know about so that they can spend money as they please, and their husbands won't check their spending habits.

Do you think hiding accounts is ok in marriage?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Money & Your Relationship

In marriage, there are a lot of obstacles to cross and sadly one obstacle that the majority of marriages have to cross is; finances. We've found that if we maintain a high level of honesty and communication, money issues fall under the topic "Everything We Talk About" and we know where the other is. Also, because we have a real partnership attitude, it's never mattered whether I was earning more or he was earning more.

Respect the FACTS:

1. This is all the money we have to first and for most, make sure we have a roof over I had, the necessities in this house (Light, Gas at least one phone).
2. Any miscellaneous bills like cable, credit cards, Internet service etc. are paid.
3. We have food.
4. Anything left goes towards, clothing or any other entertainment (games, dates, etc.)

So basically what it comes down to, is Communication, and Respect. Great ingredients for a wonderful marriage.

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: How, When & Why did you fall in love?

Everyone, married or single have there beliefs of what love is, here are a couple:

* When you commit to be open, you can truly fall in love any time. We go straight past the ego, past the intellect, and we fall in love because there is no expectation, no resistance, no question, nothing to defend or protect, no "I" or "me", there is just love. There is no reason, so there is no resistance.

* Each one of us has got some kind of a check list stored into his/her mind which includes some criteria that the other person must meet in order to qualify as someone who could be in love. If any of the listed items was not matched then the person becomes disqualified and you just think of him/her as a friend. The items in your check list are of course unique and specific depending on your background, values, past experiences and beliefs.

Both beliefs, kind of contradict themselves, but with love, both are true!

How did you know when you were in love?
When did you know you were in love? and...
Why did you fall in love?