Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: My Husband is Boring!

As relationships mature, we change its inevitable!  We all except change differently.  How do you deal with a Spouse that just wants to sit on the couch and watch television, or play video games?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY

Motivational quotes about marriage can trigger ideas that will strengthen the relationship during hard times and provide the inspiration to move forward and to stay firmly planted to your marriage.  This Motivational Monday we motivate you to pick a couple:

"Good Job!"
"You are wonderful."
"You look great today."
"I don't feel complete without you."
"I appreciate all the things you have done for me."
"You come first in my life, before kids, career, or friends."
"I am glad I married you."
"You are the best friend I have."
"If I had to do it over again, I'd still marry you."
"I could not get you out of my mind today."
"It is nice to wake up next to you."
"I will always love you."
"I trust you."
"I can always count on you."
"You make me feel good."
"I am so proud to be married to you."
"You are so special."
"I can't imagine my life apart from you."
"Thank you for loving me."
"Thank you for accepting me."
"You make each day brighter."

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Will & Jada Separated!

Say it ain't so!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I believe its my opinion and a lot of others opinion as well, but Will & Jada Pinkett Smith have been great positive role model for the African-American marriage, and to hear that they are now separated is a kick in the behind, sort of speak. 

It gives me the motivation to fight harder for my marriage, and it makes me angry to think that they are probably about to give up the fight.  It makes me wonder, how are the kids taking this, and it also makes me hope that Little Mr. Marc Anthony has nothing to do with this ;-).

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Expectations

There is nothing I ever need to have.
There is nothing I ever need to do.
I Say NO to the demands of the world.
I Say YES to the longings of my own heart.
- jlh

Expectations, assumptions, demands are dangerous to a marriage.

In a sentence such as, "I expect you to be on-time for work tomorrow," the demand is clearly stated. However, expectations are often invisible.
We would like to motivate you to improve your marriage, and lead a more joyful life, by becoming aware of these invisible perceived expectations (demands).  Look to you heart, look to God, and trust in yourself and your husband.

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: How do you handle MIL Drama?

Have you seen Jumping the Broom?  Well, its a classic case of In-Law Drama!

The Scenario
Mother-in-Law (MIL) says some things that are not within her place to say, in other words MIL is being disrespectful.  How do you handle the situation?  Do you disrespect MIL back?  Do you respectfully approach MIL regarding the situation?  Or do you ask your Spouse to handle the situation?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Where would I be...

We married our spouses for better and for worse, and sometimes worse happens more often then not.  Remembering your commitment made before God, and honoring your union is a great motivation to help you through the hard times.  Remember where would you be...

Wordless Wednesday (Sisterhood)

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: 80/20 rule is it offensive?

If you've seen Tyler Perry's movie, "Why did I get married?" Then I'll assume that you've heard of the 80/20 rule, just in case you haven't, here's the explanation;

This basically means that in marriages, you only gonna get 80% of what you need. Now when things are down in a relationship, you seen this attractive  man/woman that offers you the other 20% you want, that you feel is missing in your life. So then you're faced with a problem, should you leave the 80% which is your current relationship thinking you gonna get something better and you end up with only 20%.

Ok, now that we've explained that, I feel this rule is a good example of showing someone to appreciate what they have, but I also have a problem with it.

How would you feel if your husband feels you're only giving him 80% of what he needs, and you've been giving him 100%?  What if your husband can't explain to you what 20% he's missing, how do you handle that?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Married couples are a blessing!

I believe that every married couple should have at least one married couple that they frequently hang out with.  This married couple can share their strengths, and encourage one another.  Being around people like this is very balancing and fulfilling, and can also help bring things into perspective when things grow out of proportion.  Positive qualites rub off on each other.

Have you ever gone over another couples house after having a big argument with your spouse, then leaving that house in a good mood?  That is the power of God releasing the goodness in your hearts.  What a blessing!

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Handling Anger

This hot topic Tuesday I would like to borrow the words of marriage expert, Dr. Gary Chapman.

What do you do when you feel angry toward your spouse?

The reality of anger. Everyone gets angry when they sense that they have been wronged.

The first step is to: acknowledge   The second step is to: admit your anger to each other. Tell your spouse that you are angry and why you are angry.

Today, I want to share the third step: Agree that verbal or physical explosions are not appropriate responses to anger. Such behavior should not be accepted as normal.

One practical way to break this negative practice of explosion is to agree that whenever either of you begins to explode, the other will walk out of the room, and if you are followed, you will walk out of the house. If the spouse pursues you in the yard with yelling and screaming, you will run to a neighbor's house. If you both agree to this strategy, then each of you will know that when the other starts walking or running, it's time to stop and reflect on what is happening.

Learn to say, "I'm sorry. My exploding at you was wrong. I guess I was so hurt and angry I lost control. I'm sorry. Please forgive me." Now you are ready to discuss the issues.

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: You, Your Spouse, and God

Today's Motivational Monday quote is:  Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.- Judy Garland

Great advice, but I would like to change it up a bit, and make it more of what us married people have to deal with.  It is so hard to let other people pull you into their drama.  It's hard to not let their problems, become your own, but we have to remember that God put together one woman and one man.  He put them together to become one, unified in spirit, one union of 2 people, not this person, that person, and their kids, etc.

One marriage, made of you, your Spouse and God, nothing can be more more powerful or motivational than that.  Focus...