HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: FIL & Husband Blues

SCENERIO:  Times are hard now a days, and ends just are not meeting.  Husband tells his wife to ask her Father for a loan.  Wife refuses to do it, because she knows that her father doesn't like her husband 100% for unknown reasons, and she doesn't want to add any fuel to the fire, by making her father feel like her husband isn't a  good provider.  She tells husband that we will find a way with Gods help.  Husband says ok, but he doesn't understand why his FIL doesn't like him, afterall he's been with his daughter for over a decade and has only asked for help once, and that was for their wedding, and shouldn't he want to help if his daughter, and grandkids are in need?

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: The Power of Affection

This Motivational Monday I would like to motivate you all to touch your spouse.  Show them that you're there for them.  Give them an extra tighter hug today.  Take a walk and hold hands.  Reach across the dinner table for that spare hand, and let the power of affection take its course...

 

 

The Power of Affection

by Jim Burns 

The basic need of all people is to love and be loved. So one of the basic ingredients for a marriage to thrive is affection.

If you are in a marriage with very little affection, whether it's sexual or nonsexual variety, you most likely are in a disconnected phase of your relationship.

Some studies report that it takes eight to ten meaningful touches a day for a person to thrive.

If you are not naturally affectionate, don't fake being overly mushy, but work on it. If your family background or ethnicity didn't offer much affection to you when you were growing up, then you'll need to make an extra effort, but don't hold back or use it as an excuse for a lack of connection in your marriage.

Couples who hold hands, kiss passionately, and bring gifts like flowers and chocolate to one another are couples who have a much better chance for a healthy relationship.

Paul's advice to the Roman church was "Outdo one another in showing honor" (Romans 12:10 RSV). You may not feel like showering your spouse with affection. But no matter how you feel, choose to intentionally focus on bringing affection to your relationship.

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Trust & Love?

SCENARIO:  Your friend has been married for 6 years of a 16 year relationship from day one she's had trust issues and infidelity issues, and to this day she still has issues.  She has found new infidelities and y just has had enough and is ready to leave.  She loves her husband, and wants to be with him but just can't handle not have trust in the relationship anymore.  As her friend what advice can you give her.

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: I'm blessed

Motivating you all to be thankful for the good days.  You are very blessed!

Wordless Wednesday

HOT TOPIC TUESDAY: Compromising vs. Confrontation

Marriage is a unity.  Two individual lives, being shared, and becoming one. So as individuals we have interest and dreams that we aspire towards.  How do you convince your spouse to do something that you really want to do, that you feel you have to do, but they just don't want to do it?  For example:  You are a quiet, small town type of person and you really don't like the city, you've tried to make it work, but you just want to move.  Not only cause of your anxieties over city life, but you also feel that the schools will be better if you moved, taxes will be lower if you move, etc., but your spouse still isn't budging.  How do you deal?