Have you ever had someone compare their marriage to yours and make you feel like she does things so much better than you do? Like because she doesn't face the problems that you have you're irrelevant? or because she's been there done that you're overreacting? How do you deal with this kind of woman?
After speaking with some of my friends, family & sistas we all agree that it takes us, as women a little bit longer to calm down after an argument. Why do men think we can just shut down like that and get happy? Me personally I need a few hours, sometimes a few days. How do you get over and argument and get to making up?
If you've seen Tyler Perry's movie, "Why did I get married?" Then I'll assume that you've heard of the 80/20 rule, just in case you haven't, here's the explanation;
This basically means that in marriages, you only gonna get 80% of what you need. Now when things are down in a relationship, you seen this attractive man/woman that offers you the other 20% you want, that you feel is missing in your life. So then you're faced with a problem, should you leave the 80% which is your current relationship thinking you gonna get something better and you end up with only 20%.
Ok, now that we've explained that, I feel this rule is a good example of showing someone to appreciate what they have, but I also have a problem with it.
How would you feel if your husband feels you're only giving him 80% of what he needs, and you've been giving him 100%? What if your husband can't explain to you what 20% he's missing, how do you handle that?
Confession time!!!!
It really burns me up when my husband doesn't show me that he's interested in things I do! I know I'm not the only one that is annoyed by this. I also know that they're some wives that feel that the wife should have her own interest and the same for the husband.
What do you think?
Real Wives of Chicago Couples Luncheon
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